This seems to be an underlying—yet dominating—way of thinking held by many of the MindFix clients we’ve worked with.
I get it. Seriously, I do. I used to think this way too. To an extreme.
I’ve always been a planner. (For all y’all Kolbe people, I’m an 8 in FollowThru.)
I always HAD to have everything planned out BEFORE I began…
I was literally planning out what order people got their presents handed to them on Xmas morning by the time I was 6.
I would plan out in advance EXACTLY what order I would ski runs at the resort when I was 10.
I was giving myself panic attacks in high school because I didn’t know what I wanted to be when I grew up.
My thought process was, “If I haven’t planned something out, HOW THE HELL AM I GOING TO KNOW WHAT TO DO OR HOW TO DO IT??”
So yes, I GET the fear that shows up when you don’t know what you want to do next.
In your life. In your business. In your career.
In fact, I lived with this fear, daily, from 2013 – late 2017.
Look at the photo at the top of this post. Just found these notes from me trying to plan out my next business. This was from January 2016.
I kept thinking, “If I could just KNOW EXACTLY what my next business would be, I could build it!! BUT I DON’T KNOW WHAT NEW BUSINESS I WANT TO BUILD.”
And it drove me crazy.
I always wanted to be clear on my destination BEFORE I started moving forward.
Interestingly enough, I was sooooooooooooooo backwards.
While visions and ideas and goals help orient us in the general DIRECTION of the future of our dreams, we can rarely imagine all the possibilities, opportunities, options, people, resources, feelings, developments, or synchronicities that will show up along the way.
WE CAN’T PLAN FOR EVERYTHING. We don’t have crystal balls.
Back in December of 2017, I could have never imagined I’d have a new business that was growing each month, changing people’s lives, and having an incredible ripple effect along the way. Never.
How did I end up with everything I wanted when I didn’t have it all planned out? (In fact — when I literally had NOTHING planned out?)
???? I’ll share my secret with you. ????
Some people call it following their Hell Yeses. Others call it following their highest inspirations. I call it “letting go of having to see the end of my path before I start walking, and taking small steps toward what LIGHTS ME UP every single day.”
Sounds lovely. Very idealistic. But what does that look like in REAL life?’
I’ll share what it looked like for me to give you a visual.
Taking a step forward toward my highest inspirations looked like…
The more I filled my days up with activities and ideas and concepts that LIT ME UP, the faster I realized I was moving down my path toward the future I’d always wanted.
I didn’t need it all planned out from the beginning.
I knew the general DIRECTION I wanted to go.
I DIDN’T have to know what my final destination was before I started moving forward.
For YEARS I’d clung to believing I had to have it all figured out FIRST, and THEN I could move forward.
Holy shit, I’d had it backwards all along.
All I needed was a general sense of a rough direction, and then to fill my days with what inspired me. Less than a year later I was in a place that I absolutely, positively, 100% could NEVER have planned out for myself—a million times better than where I was.
Being of the mindset that you MUST have it all figured out FIRST breaks people. It almost crushed me, and I see it doing the same to clients who come to work with us. It can cost you years of your life as you keep trying to plan your future down to the final detail.
Just know: The journey CAN be filled with excitement even when you’re not 100% sure of where you’re ending up.
Take it from a previous control-freak and obsessive planner.
There ARE other options and other ways to get to where you’re looking to go.
When you're tired of getting in your own way, and you know you're capable of SO much more, it's time to talk to us.