You may actually NOT be an introvert
A guy I know, we’ll call him Sam, worked as a programmer. For nearly a decade and a half, his entire identity was, “I’m an introvert. And I don’t really like people.” He insisted he was an introvert because: he abhorred the idea of going to social events he’d taken many personality tests (including Meyers […]
Those Words Were Being Used About *ME*??
Four and a half years ago I sent an email to 15 people (friends, family, clients) and asked them what words they’d use to describe my Unique Ability. I got words back like… determined… motivated… confident… relentless… committed… brave… incredible listener… dedicated… improver… etc. The words + answers were rather consistent across the board. They […]
The 30-Second, 3-Step Mind Experiment
There’s an incredible little trick I have audiences play on themselves when I’m giving talks. It gets them to realize how their belief structures influence their lives more than their will power, logic, analytical reasoning, or grit. Try it yourself, it’s super easy (though Step #1 is slightly uncomfortable for a moment, sorry — there’s […]
How Over-Thinking Is KEEPING You Stuck. (And How to Stop It)
You’re smart. You can figure things out. So when you get stuck in patterns that don’t serve you, you think and you think and you think about how to get unstuck. You talk it out. Talk it through. Consider all angles. Brainstorm why you’re stuck. Here’s the thing: Neurologists have discovered that when you repeatedly […]
The 2 Easy Hacks That Make It Easy For Me to Stay Impeccable With My Word
While entrepreneurs are my kinda people, I find many of them struggle to be impeccable with their word. I find that, despite the best of intentions, they often over commit, say they’ll do things…but don’t, promise they’ll complete something…but won’t, offer deadlines that pass….without mention, and drop commitments…simply because they forget. Sporadic, inconsistent fulfillment of […]
The Super-Fast, 3-Step, Out-of-Body Negative-Emotion Hack (AKA Free Yourself From Any Bad Feeling In Less Than 2 Minutes)
Not everyone is able to work with my team to completely clear out the root causes of why they repeatedly experience counterproductive, “bad” feelings. So, next time you experience an emotion you can’t seem to shake, try this mental band-aid for a bit of temporary relief: THE UNDER-2-MINUTES OUT-OF-BODY EMOTION-DISSOLVING HACK STEP 1 Sit somewhere […]
How to Give REALLY Great Feedback
One of the most common reasons people don’t like to offer feedback (or have difficult conversations) is because: *** they fear the other person will react “badly” *** (where reacting badly can be defined as reacting with anger, resentment, defensiveness, etc.) That’s why, when giving feedback as a team, we’re always looking to have the […]
How a Man In His 40s Who’d Been Lazy His ENTIRE LIFE Discovered (In 40 Minutes) He Was Never, In Fact, Lazy at All…
In the past two weeks, I’ve been working 1:1 with an incredible, powerful Influencer (yes — Influencer with a capital “I” — odds are, you *absolutely* know this guy…). Despite all his incredible successes, his companies, and his connections, in our first conversation he confessed he was actually nervous about his future and his happiness […]
Most of Us Have it All Backwards
If we fear we’re a failure, we’ll find evidence of it. If we fear a spouse isn’t faithful, we’ll find evidence of it. If we think our business is going to fail, we’ll see evidence of it. And we’ll see/find evidence everywhere. Example: I know a fellow who had a 100% close rate on his […]
